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Friends tell me that it doesn't matter, that they don't even see it. I'm not sure how I feel about that because it means that they aren't seeing me. A very large and important part of me that partially made me who I am today.
I may be misinterpreting CageSage's comment, or overthinking it, but it did trigger something that I may just end up exploring with my character.
but it did trigger something that I may just end up exploring with my character.
I don't think it's misinterpreting - each of my characters will be who they are based on their experiences. Yes, people say they're not real, but they are as real as any other person I've met. The young boy in school with red eyes who couldn't go out in the sun, the young boy who was his friend, the one everyone called Googy because he was as round as an egg, the young girl with a nose bigger than all the adults ... all these things in a person's life shapes some of their character, how they react to the world, how they interact with people. these are real people.
Characters in story should be real, in my view, they should show the things that define what made them. A reflection of society, perhaps, but how do we create that reflection without reality?
When I do a character profile, how the person looks in a general sense isn't the first way I see them - I ask them questions about how they came to be here, what they want to do with their moment in the story. Sometimes, the answers surprise me.
Sometimes, not.
How to define a character isn't about blue/brown eyes, or height, or shape, or employment - it's about what made them, why it made them, how the perceptions of the other players helped with the creation of the perception of self.
So I've asked:
Does it feel feel less womanly to have no hair - ever asked a person with alopecia how it feels, how other women react (the first reaction, not the cover-up)?
Does a man feel less manly if he doesn't have enough muscles in the calves, arms, etc. compared to their companions (or is it from their partners)?
Is a scar a badge, or a barrier?
When it comes to character in story, I only give them one, maybe two, of these defining pieces to round out who they are, and it's never there as a distinguishing feature, but as a distinguishing characteristic, part of the reason they are who they are.
I hope that's given my comment more clarity (and yes, most of the people who know me would say, 'yeah, as mud.' Such is life.
Create a real character, not a picture. And the old adage of 'write what you know' isn't really about what you know, but who you know best ...
As always, my opinion only, and I'm always interested in hearing how others do it - we're never finished with learning, are we?