Go to the local tavern, place a 100$ bill on the bar. Tell the bartender to buy as many drinks for the patrons as he can. You will have new friends. (Of course, in New York City you'll only make 4 or 5 new friends)
It will need to be you who does the initial reaching out. Get Googling, Peter. Local live music evenings can be very friendly events, someone can go on their own, sit with a drink and not feel they stick out like a sore thumb. There's a local neighbourhood thingie on-line called Streetlife. Bound to be some equivalent thing near you. These sites have useful info, and adverts, and conversations and groups, including things like Supper Clubs for men and women to meet up in a safe, very light, non pressured way.